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Wednesday, May 4, 2011

WARNING - Driving While Texting (DWT)


This bill was passed already in January, and now it is was a secondary offense which means you had to get caught doing something else while driving like speeding or not wearing a seat belt. Now NY state senate, mainly Republicans are pushing to make it a primary traffic offense - which means if you are holding your phone in your hand they can pull you over and issue you a ticket. The fine will be $150 and 2 points on your license.

While I believe texting and driving is impossible I guess I can be guilty for talking (not hands free) & driving. Although most of the time I use the speaker when I driving the mere fact that the phone is in my hand and cost me $150 & 2 points.

I think the penalty is a bit stiff but at the end it will save lives and bring revenue to NY. On the flipside of things how many times have you seen police officers on the phone while driving? Who will police the police? What about the texter who walks across the street without looking up and texting the whole time. The other day I watched a man smoke a cigarette with a coffee in his hand and texting all at the same time.

What are your thoughts?

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Want Good Mexican Food? Try Lauriol Plaza – Georgetown section of DC

If you want some good Mexican food and don’t mind waiting for a table then Lauriol Plaza is the place. It is one of the trendiest places in Georgetown. Honey and I had dinner there on a Friday night and the crowd was out the door. I thought it was crowded because this was the first gorgeous evening of 2011, this may have been but the food was with a capital “D” Delicious….. Even the chips and salsa was to die for. The place was packed – yes I’m talking elbow to elbow packed. We was told there would be an hour wait but actually after 2 sangrias and 2 orders of chips & salsa our table was ready within 25 minutes.

I wanted to try everything on the menu but that wouldn’t be ladylike, so I went with the recommendation from the staff at the Palomar…and I had the combination plate with an enchilada, a taco, tamale with Mexican rice and a fajita on the side. The portion was too much for me to finish – but I did what I could. Honey had cuban steak with white rice & black beans.

We were seated outside – which was great and not a noisy as I would have anticipated….. It was a lovely night; I was with a lovely man – enjoying good conversation and great food!

I will make this one of my DC favorites…


Tuesday, March 22, 2011

So what’s the Big Deal about DC Cupcakes?

I didn’t know the answer to this question on my recent trip to DC. What I did know that I witnessed one of the longest lines I have ever seen. It wrapped around the corner and half way down the block. At first I thought the line was a line to a club, after all it was after 10pm. On the line there were young kids, college kids, Grandma’s & Grandpa’s, babies being held and others in strollers – I deemed this was no club line…. I looked up at the sign “DC Cupcakes” sign then grabbed my iPhone to google it. At a quick glimpse the only thing that came up was the location and a few rave reviews.


So the next day as were heading out I wanted to stop at a boutique for some shoes and if the line wasn’t crazy we would stop for some cupcakes. I was batting a double zero. The boutique didn’t have my size “no I don’t want to try on a 6.5 - I wear a 7”, was my reply. The next stop was to hustle through the traffic to get some cupcakes…. We didn’t even stop because the line was protruding around the front of the store.

So what is the big deal about DC Cupcakes?

The two sisters, Katherine & Sophie traded in the world of fashion to follow their true passion of baking. In 2008 the first cupcakery in DC “Georgetown Cupcake” was opened. It doesn’t stop there; they have a reality TV show on TLC “DC Cupcakes” in the second season…..So that’s the big deal about DC Cupcakes!

DC Cupcakes

Thursday, March 10, 2011

NYC EATS


Have you ever noticed all the different types of food you can buy from a truck in NYC.  Some people refuse to eat from a truck, but they will buy from the fruit stand - whatever....... on a stroll this is what I found
Quick, cheap & easy - did I mention GOOD

This one is new - it's a waffle truck


I was so undecided - I ended up not getting anything
in NYC you know you must order quick quick

Honestly, this may be my most favorite truck.....The Love Truck

I usually order a whole lotta love (medium) w/cream and cinnamin
oh & they steam the milk & cream - Yummy!
I should mention my stroll was very short, so I missed the smoothie truck and the truck that make eggs & bacon any way you like it.....

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Did you know……?

Daylight savings time will begin on Saturday March 13th at 2:00 am. You probably know this already – but what you may know is not every US state participates in DST, Arizona, Hawaii, Puerto Rico, US Virgin Islands and American Samoa do not observe DST – They follow “standard time”.


Also before 2005 Indiana didn’t observe DST – since the state is divided between two time zones – some of the state’s counties observed DST while others did not – That had to be confusing! But, it's actually a choice the state can make.

However congress did pass a bill that if a state chooses to observe DST – then the state must follow the beginning and ending set dates – which is the second Sunday in March to the first Sunday in November. This too was changed by congress in 2005 to conserve energy – prior to 2005, DST began on the first Sunday in April to the last Sunday in October.

Simply Brain Food

Friday, February 18, 2011

A perfect match... Louie meets Louie

And they lived happily ever after…. I never revealed my Valentines Day gift. So here it is – shhhhhhh I knew what I was getting the moment I opened my Christmas gift – hehehe….. Sometimes Honey is predictable – he actually did the same thing with my other LV bag and wallet set. I adore the bag and especially the color. I never realized that burgundy goes with so many different colors.




Enough of that………It’s Friday and I just got paid! Most of you have a 3 day weekend and some of us do not (me) I’ll make the best of my Monday in the office with limited staff.

I think I will celebrate the Presidents by spending some dead presidents at Woodbury Commons on Sunday – Not sure what I’m looking for but Tory Burch is calling my name……

Thursday, February 17, 2011

I Love Sephora......my recent purchase

I just brought a new eyeliner from Sephora (I love this store). It was only $5.00. The color is midnight black. It slides on so smooth- since I’m far from an expert when it comes to applying make-up, if it’s easy it’s a winner in my book. Although I don’t wear make-up everyday – I try to apply eyeliner and/or mascara and lip-gloss before leaving the house. This one is definitely a keeper!


Also, I’m in search of a new summer fragrance – Any suggestions?


Friday, February 11, 2011

Another Life Taken and Many Other's Ruined..............

My heart and prays goes out to Guimmia Villa two young sons and her family. Another senseless murder and another family destroyed.

Yesterday afternoon Guimmia estranged husband walked into her place of work with a bouquet of roses and shot her in the face. He returned to his home in Ravenswood housing project a few blocks away (the housing project where Guimmia lived her with her mother up to 6 months ago) and cowardly committed suicide with a shot to the head. A tragic moment of vehement love and just a few days shy of Valentines Day and following a fight they had the previous weekend.

Guimmia seemed to follow the victim’s of DV (domestic violence) protocol…..She renewed one of the orders of protections on Monday morning that was set to expire next month – her Nassau County order was due to expire in April. She recently moved from her mother’s home, which was the area where her estranged husband lived. This was a 32 year old woman who was in a violent relationship. She had 2 kidney transplants and survived for a reason and to have her life taken from her by the hands of her husband – is senseless.

Although I did not know her personally – having gone through an abusive relationship, I can only imagine her story that she will never get to tell. She lives behind 2 boy’s ages 6 and 9, friends and family – whom I sure will miss her.

In this story, I didn’t care to mention her “estranged husbands” name – because it really don’t matter – another women's life taken from domestic violence…………..

Read More Here.............

Thursday, February 3, 2011

Why do You walk?

So I received an email from GMHC today......

Why do You walk?

It took me a while to put the words on paper but the thoughts gathered in my head in seconds…



I walk because both of my parents died and they were both HIV positive


I walk because I lost an Uncle who died and he was HIV positive


I walk because there is a person in my life who is like a mother to me that lives with HIV


I walk because Black & Hispanic women have the largest percentage of HIV in America


I walk because I have a daughter


I walk because I have a son


I walk for those who died not even knowing they had the disease


I walk for the kids who parents died as they live with the disease


I walk for the activist who continues to spread the word in our communities


I walk for the doctor who volunteered to open the free clinic and provide free testing


I walk for me


I walk for you


I walk


Aids Walk New York 2011
 
All the answers to you questions right here

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

I'm Back......

It’s been so long that I touched this blog, although I did check it from time to time – my writing trip down memory lane….

I’m just going to jump in – because really there is no right or wrong time – it’s a cold, icy, rainy Wednesday morning. My 50 minute commute was 3 hours due to the glossy ice covered streets, the frosted tracks and the wait for the rescue train – It could have been worse….I could still be stuck on the bridge in the stalled train with over 100 people in my train car alone.

I made it in and the reality of it is – It’s winter and I live in NYC – What can you expect!



This is a picture at the bus stop...yes that is all ICE


Life is Good!!!

Sunday, March 14, 2010

Maxwell & Jill Scott in Madison Garden - NYC

Tickets just went on sale (3/13) to see Maxwell and Jill Scott in NYC. I've never had the pleasures of watching Maxwell perform live, but I can only image his buttery smooth voice flowing through the air. I'm sure he'll have a live band as well - ouch!!  I have yet found known a person who doesn't like "Blacksummer's night"....

However, I did see Jill Scott work the mic like I've never seen before and this wasn't even her show. She opened up for Chris Rock and all I can say is Ms. Lady can blow. I felt her energy in the room; the way she held the microphone like it was her baby- she was simply amazing. Then she went acapella opera on us and rocked it!!

So I can imagine this show is going to be a must see. They are pairing up for a 20 city tour - so check when they arrive in your city.

Maxwell & Jill Scott

Friday, March 5, 2010

Can I afford the 8K Tax Credit?


There was a time where I would run to do my taxes - I mean I didn't even wait for my W2, I would use my last pay stub of that year- those days are so over.


I called my tax guy (he's been doing my taxes since I was 18) to chitchat and to ask him the price of preparation this year -he said same as last year, then he heard me mumble - he said well why don't you buy a house for the 8K TAX CREDIT. I said ok let me give it some thought. He reminded me that I have until April 30th which is two weeks after the tax deadline (April 15)- go figure.

I'm really not good with numbers and I prefer letters/words by far so I pulled out the calculator. My FICO is good. I can go into my 401k for the down payment, being fully aware of the penalties I think it's worth it. I let my fingers do the walking - to the Internet. I know what I want. I found it and the price is really not bad - I think. Mortgage payments are roughly 10% of the borrowed amount. I can't afford this amount. Do I buy less space which will be more space than I have now but still less than I want- but I will be able to afford this and get the TAX CREDIT by April 30. None of this making any sense to me. Why buy something with a hefty price tag that I can't afford or buy something that I really don't want for a TAX CREDIT. With all this said, I decided to pay my tax guy $250 for my itemized tax preparations and not pursue home ownership within 56 days..... This is simply my thoughts people - just my thoughts

Friday, February 5, 2010

Have you ever heard of Walter Sammons......


Walter Sammons (1890-1973) was African American inventor from Philadelphia. In 1920 he received a patent for an improved comb that straightened hair. According to him, he invented a heated comb that removed the nappy's from the hair.
Yes, the hot comb ( I still have one - just in case).
Thanks, Mr. Sammons - boy do I remember getting my hair pressed for church on Saturday evenings and by Tuesday I was tore up again. The grease use to sizzle and I would cry "ouch" that hurt. My moms used to try and get every strand - I used to say, " not the baby hairs".


Those were the days. How thankful I was when I got my first perm!

Friday, January 22, 2010

FBI Digital Billboards - New York City Times Square



The FBI began this national wide initiative by posting 100 of digital billboard in 23 cities and some other organizations joined them so now there are over 1500 billboards in 40 states. When I first heard it I thought of the "Wanted" signs in the post office and that is was it is on in digital format like a digital photo frame. Last Sunday on the drive from Atlantic City (NJ TPKE) I saw one of these billboards. Honey was thought I was insane because I got a little excited and jumped in his lap blocking his view of the road. I just wanted to see if there was someone on there I knew. That is the next question, would you report someone you knew? Or would you report someone you identified from the poster?



Some of the cases in which the billboards assisted to make the arrest:
  • In Tennessee, a man was on a 2 week robbery spree

  • In Virgina, a man arrested for money laundering - he turned himself in

  • In New Mexico, a young kid wanted for bank robbery - he was driving in the car with his mother and she noticed her kid on the billboard - he turned himself in that evening


Well, there will be one of these billboards posted in New York City, Times Square.

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

You Have Every Reason To Smile - So Do It!

Smiling is the cheap way to look good and feel good instantly. This morning I tried it. I smiled during the walk to my office, on the phone and to everyone in the office. I gotta tell you I'm feeling pretty darn good right now. The funny thing is everyone is smiling back, so not only am I feeling darn good right now but my smiles are making other people smile back - it's infectious I tell you.
This is definitely worth sharing....so go on ahead and smile today I heard sunshine is good for your teeth.

A smile is the universal welcome. ~Max Eastman

Of all the things you wear, your expression is the most important. ~ Janet Lane

If you would like to ruin the day of a grouchy person, just smile. ~ Sharron Smith

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Daddy To Be Bites the Dust....Only 15

What can you say

A 15 year old who served a year in a juvenile detention center, daddy to be was shot dead on the streets of Brooklyn. His family said he was changing..."he stopped wearing baggy clothes and began wearing button up shirts". He had a job and was looking forward to going to high school this year. This has become the norm... death, teen pregnancy, incarceration, increased dropout rates, and broken families. Who's responsible for this? The parents, government, schools, our neighbors, social workers... the list can be endless. I'm sorry tired and this is a never ending circle.

Who loses here the
  1. unborn child
  2. the mother of the unborn child
  3. the parents of the unborn child
  4. the teachers & social worker that may need to provide assistance to the unborn child
  5. A parent (s) lost a child
  6. the shooter if caught loses his life behind bars
  7. the neighborhood where this unborn child may live one day

I guess we all do but some of us will never see it that way. Just some stuff on my mind....

Thursday, August 20, 2009

New York New York...The Park In the Sky Welcome To The High Line Park

New Yorkers were the best at taking this lovely city for granted. New York has so much to offer, you can ask the 44 - 47 million people who visit each year. I've had the pleasure of doing a little site touring around this wonderful city. From my previous post you can see that I went to check out the "Writing on the Wall at the MoMA" which was fantastic. When I left the museum I strolled up 5th Avenue then over to Lexington. The one thing I can say and I am happy about that I don't have to walk with a map in hand- just my camera.

I've been bitten by the bug and I want to thank T.O.N.Y for providing me with the cool, cheap, fun and must see/do things to do in NYC. If you are a visitor to the city, I suggest picking up the latest magazine at one of our many friendly newsstands around the city- trust me it will be $4.00 well spent (don't pay more for it) you'll be happy you did.

My next venture was to the park in the sky....no serious you are in the sky about 30 feet. The park is situated on an old elevated cargo rail that's located on the West Side of Manhattan in the Meatpacking District (20th btwn 10th & 11th). Easily assessable by the A/C/E/L to 14th Street and 8th Avenue; M14 bus to 14th Street and 9th Avenue. The park opened to the public June 9, 2009. There will be serveral phases but now the first phase is open which extends from Gansevoort Street to 20th Street. The last cargo train that ran on this track was in 1980 pulling frozen turkeys.

One bright sunny Friday after work I chugged myself to the west side to see the High Line. First I stopped at the grocery store and got a water and a fruit salad. It was breath taking - without leaving NYC...and free (just how I like it). As I walk the uneven paved walkway to my left was the sun over the Hudson River and New Jersey and to my right was the busy streets of NYC. Snuggled 30 feet above was me standing in the High Line. I walked. I took photos. I sunbathed while listening to Maxwell, ate fruit and chilled. Look at the pics my eyes captured. Try to get there the park is open from 7am to 10 pm.





Friday, August 14, 2009

A Review or Reflection of NYC Blackout 2003


Review

Last week I watched the movie Blackout that I rented from Netflix. You know how things just fall into place the movie just happened to up there on my que list so I watched I not really thinking the six year anniversary of the NYC Blackout was approaching.


The movie Blackout written and directed by Jerry Lamothe and was a little taken by surprise because yes the overall plot is the eruption New Yorkers suffered during the August 2003 blackout. The subplot here was how a particular community was affected on this very day that began like any ordinary day. The cast (Melvin Van Peebles, Zoe Salanda and Saul Rubinek) too much of my surprise were well known and others were some I’ve seen on HBO series. The cast did not make the film and could have been done with actors/actress’s who were less known and had the same effect. I say that because most of these events were just part of a daily routine and didn’t take any real dramatic effects. Some of the plot I was able to predict but that by no means took away from the film at all.


Reflection


While I watched the film it brought me back to August 14 2003 , where I was fooling around at work on my computer and suddenly my computer shut off. I now only know the time was 4:19p from reports but then I would’ve said almost 4:30 because I had one foot out of the door. I was the only one in the office so I locked up. I walked down 5 flights of stairs and headed out the building. It was only there I was told by a passerby that the blackout affected more than my crappy office building but the entire east coast. I walked my same routine to the bus stop and boarded. Thankfully that was the first stop so I landed a seat by the window and watched how the South Bronx proceeded to crumble like a balled up loose-leaf. People crammed through the front and back doors of the bus simultaneously. The air was pulled in all directions and replaced by beads of sweat. The bus kept moving. People were moving everywhere. Finally, my stop - my neighborhood resembles the Brooklyn neighborhood in this film… more so with the various skin tones, store owners, and customers. I greeted the two older ladies who were standing in front of my building. I looked over to the young mother with the baby in her arms and the baby stroller at her side and ask her if she needed help. She said no and that she rather wait for the elevator. I held my keys in my hand as I pushed open the main door. I was slapped with the dry hot darkness. I took off my shoes and stuffed them my purse. My hands became my guides as I felt along the walls in search of the door to the stairwell. I remember counting every two flights is equal to one floor. I wasn’t really worried about stepping in urine or feces as I trailed up to the 4th floor but my feet were covered with dirt and dust. It could’ve been worse. I felt like I was playing a game of blind man bluff with no blindfold. I remember not being able to see my hands in front of me. I knocked on the door and called out “Ashanti’s name” “It’s me mommy”. She had no clue to what happen all she knew was that her program on Nickelodeon shut off. She thought I didn’t pay the cable bill until she realized the air conditioner went off.


It was about six o’clock then and lights were still light out. I explained to her the lights will be on soon and the entire west coast is affected. We grab our flashlights, candles and batteries and placed everything in the center of the living room. We went down the stairs to check on some family members who lived nearby.


Continued Reflection


Eight O’clock were back in our apartment to get ready for this delightful evening. To be honest we had everything we needed and our plans were to sleep on the living room floor. We had each other and this brings me to the movie after sunset…most people went home to their apartments to wait but some took this for an opportunity to loot and riot. That evening we were thrown in uncontrollable situation in which the only control we had was over ourselves. Fortunately the lights and power in my area was back on at 8:15 that evening. Unfortunately we did sleep together that evening and continued with our normal functions. I didn’t witness the looting or the riots or the hate the hovered some neighborhoods in my city. This film showed me and America what we didn’t see.


Fact


In NYC that day there were six fatalities reported. Two were deaths from carbon monoxide, two from fire, and one as a result of a fall from a roof while breaking into a shoe store, and one man died of a heart attack in his neighbor's apartment after climbing the 17 flights to their floor.

Thursday, August 13, 2009

How to Practice Easy Healthy Habits in the Office

How to Practice Easy Healthy Habits in the Office

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Honoring Andy Kessler's Life & Passion

This morning while I was getting ready for work I overheard a story of Andy Kessler who was guy who had a passion for skateboarding. He was responsible for creating the skateboard scene in NYC. During his plight, he attended public hearings and fought for what he believed in - that NYC needed skate parks and skateboard areas.

This entry is not really about skateboarding at all - see Andy died at the age of 49 from an allergic reaction to a hornet sting. I never knew the legendary skateboarder personally but my admiration for him is now profound. He was able to take a passion of his and open it to the masses. I'm not sure if he was credited for how he changed the NYC skateboarding scene while he was alive but he now receives the respect from fellow boarders young and old. Some of the benefited from skate parks are Riverside Park and Pier 20 on the Hudson and even in areas in Brooklyn this is all due to Andy Kessler passion, drive and hard work.

Then I began to reflect on my own passions....if I was to die today what legacy would I leave behind? What would they say about me at my funeral? My obituary would say what? This may be a bit much for some people to digest but I'm not thinking about my death but about did I live my passion while I was here. What did I share with others? How many hearts did I touch? Just think about it and you can decide if your cool with they way you living your life and if suddenly you were to die now you've lived your life to the fullest. If not, guess what you can begin right now to touch a life, a heart, a person... Leave your legacy.

This moment of honoring Andy Kessler has once again made me reflect on my life.